Loving Someone in Recovery

The only thing harder than getting along with other human beings in the world, is getting along with one human being living under the same roof.

- Beverly Berg

Recovering addicts are faced with many challenges, and these challenges can often extend to their romantic partners. During the recovery period, couples often struggle with overcoming feelings of betrayal and frustration, and may have a hard time rebuilding trust and closeness. While there are many resources available to recovering addicts, there are limited resources for the people who love them.

In Loving Someone in Recovery, therapist Beverly Berg offers powerful tools for the partners of recovering addicts. Based in mindfulness, attachment theory, and neurobiology, this book will help readers sustain emotional stability in their relationships, increase effective communication, establish boundaries, and take real steps toward reigniting intimacy.

The material in this book is drawn from the author's successful Conscious Couples Recovery Workshop. With more than 25 years in the field, she has developed a unique set of exercises that address the issues faced by couples in recovery. This book addresses the roles that both partners play in recovery, and aims to help readers develop a new appreciation for one another and improve self-confidence and acceptance.

The road to recovery is never an easy one, but by building a strong support system, the chances of success are exponentially greater.

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"Loving Someone in Recovery is a ground breaking, practical and brilliant guide. It will give heart and support to millions in recovery, helping them to learn to love wisely at last."

- Dr. Jack Kornfield, Bestselling author A Path With Heart

Book Testimonials

"This is the seminal book for couples confronted with the recovery of addiction and the age old issue of codependency that undermines the promises."

- Claudia Black, Ph.D., author It Will Never Happen to Me; Changing Course, Deceived: Facing Sexual Betrayal, Lies and Secrets

"With humour and straight up talk, Dr. Berg, an expert in her field, provides answers to common questions, and a clear path to follow. I strongly recommend this book!"

- Gabrielle Bernstein, Bestselling author of Spirit Junkie

"If you are part of a recovering couple and looking for a handbook on how to transform the quality of relationship from dysfunction to healing and connection, you've found it."

- Elisha Goldstein, PhD, author of The Now Effect: How this Moment Can Change the Rest of Your Life, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook

"Anyone touched by a recovering person they care about needs this book. It has the power to change your life."

- Bestselling author Terry Real, The New Rules of Marriage

"Dr. Beverly Berg's comprehensive book Loving Someone in Recovery is a treasure chest of discoveries and insights; she shows us all how to be more true to who we really are, and in being so, to each other."

- Trudy Goodman, founding teacher, InsightLA; contributing author, Compassion and Wisdom in Psychotherapy (Guilford Press, 2011), Clinical Handbook of Mindfulness (Springer, 2008), Mindfulness & Psychotherapy (Guilford Press, 2005)

"Loving Someone in Recovery provides practical direction in helping recovering couples and should be incorporated as a standard component of addiction treatment."

- Dr. Harvey Sternbach, adult psychiatrist; addiction medicine specialist; clinical professor of psychiatry, UCLA; distinguished fellow, American Psychiatric Association

"In her new book Loving Someone in Recovery, Dr. Beverly Berg perfectly blends humor and intelligence, in a manner only an accomplished recovery expert and skilled therapist can achieve."

- Stan Tatkin, author of Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (New Harbinger, 2012)

"Loving Someone in Recovery is gifted with a combination of compassion, an immense fund of knowledge, and extensive clinical experience."

- Phillip J. Bowman, M.D., M.P.H. diplomate, American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology; medical director, Bowman Medical Group

"Loving Someone in Recovery is able to skillfully work with clients utilizing a variety of techniques. Her work with couples in recovery, in particular, is masterful."

- Jeffrey Gandin, M.D. diplomate, American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology; assistant clinical professor, Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior at UCLA

"Loving Someone in Recovery is a book that offers the reader a rare combination of bright, innovative, and courageous thinking, combined with an empathy, humor and practical skills for recovering couples."

- Ralph Bruneau, PhD, MFT, director of Larchmont Associates, faculty professor at Antioch University, board member of AAMFT-CALIFORNIA

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