Top Five Reasons I’m Starting to Hate Social Media

Date Posted: October 27, 2014
Top Five Reasons I’m Starting to Hate Social Media

I have to confess, I am one of those people who used to love Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. I don't know if I would have been as interested if I hadn't had a daughter whose generation was raised with social media, and I hadn't felt compelled to join in the insanity. Now that my daughter has been at college for the last two years, I still find myself checking different social media sites throughout the day, sometimes starting from the moment I roll out of bed. Granted, I've enjoyed finding refuge in cloud communities, but at this point, I would say I've developed a love-hate relationship with social media.

Here Are My Top Five Reasons


The line between friendly connection and intrigue has become blurred. I have seen so many patients feel betrayed and cheated on by partners who have struck up relationships with old boyfriends and girlfriends on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. This kind of behavior makes it hard to be in a long-term relationship. If intrigue and escape are so readily available, why bother dealing with the difficulties in your current relationship?


I have spent too much time with patients who are processing hurt feelings as a result of not being invited to events that they knew from social media their friends attended.


Social media gives a false impression that everyone is happy and fulfilled and enjoying his or her life. It's one thing to celebrate the good stuff going on - and trust me, I'm right there doing this, as well - but it's sad to compare your life with what you see on social media and feel less than and despairing as a result.


In my experience, couples are fighting more because they are spending more time on social media and less time making love.


Social media is causing a process addiction in people who have started to regulate their moods through technology, rather than through in–person human relationships. Some of my patients literally cannot ignore their phones for our entire session, without anxiety starting to arise.

Sometimes I think that we should all close our computers and shut off our phones for a moment, and reach out to a loved one in person right now.

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